Here’s the reality: Trauma IS grief. A common response (dysfunctional coping strategy) is to minimize what we experienced. We often do this by empathetically viewing the trauma of others as more intense, diminishing the intensity and impact of our own. This is the epitome of self-abandonment and leads us to one of the first steps in recovery: Cultivating Self-compassion. Sounds simple and impossible, all at the same time, and that is because we naturally default to self-abandonment since we did not have the benefit of an emotionally stable and co-regulating parent. In the beginning, we need a stand in to model compassion and this is where the right help is so necessary. If we experience further invalidation, we will re-experience the trauma and, therefore, the loss and grief. This perpetuates the cycle of suffering.

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